Marriage Inventory

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future spouse has shared his/her feelings about the responsibilities involved in having children.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 4.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> As a couple, we have many mutual friends that we both enjoy.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 5.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> We agree on the extent of our ongoing involvement in religion.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 WIDTH="40"><div> 6.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> We are in agreement about the husband and wife roles each of us expects of the other in our marriage relationship.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 7.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> There are certain behaviors or habits in my future spouse which sometimes annoy me.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 8.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> Sometimes my future spouse feels that I do not listen to him/her.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 9.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> The behavior of my future spouse sometimes frightens me.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 WIDTH="40"><div> 10.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I expect our sexual relationship to be affected by changes in our deeds, moods and techniques of sexual expression.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 11.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> Differences in our backgrounds and values may lead to problems about how we spend money.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 WIDTH="40"><div> 12.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> The social and economic lifestyles of our families are so different that it may cause problems for us.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 13.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> We are in agreement on a method of  family planning.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 WIDTH="40"><div> 14.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I am concerned that past emotional involvements one or both of us had with others may affect our marriage in a negative way.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 15.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I am concerned that our wedding may become too much of a "production."</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 16.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> We have friends who are supportive of the beliefs and lifestyle that we value.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 17.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> My future spouse and I have agreed to compromise on  career decisions.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 18.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I am hoping that my future spouse will change some of his/her behaviors.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 19.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> The use of some drug (alcohol/tobacco/marijuana/cocaine) causes problems between us.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 20.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> My future spouse and I are in agreement on how much time each of us needs to spend alone.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 WIDTH="40"><div> 21.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I am content with the responsibilities each of us has agreed to accept in the way we will manage our home.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 22.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I can depend on my future spouse when I need emotional support.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 23.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> There has been no interference from others about our wedding plans.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 24.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> My family approves of my  future spouse.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 25.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I am concerned that my future spouse sometimes spends money foolishly.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 WIDTH="40"><div> 26.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> We have discussed the ways our families solve problems and how this may affect our problem-solving.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 WIDTH="40"><div> 27.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> My future spouse and I agree that our marriage commitment involves an intention to pledge love under all circumstances.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 28.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I have at times been fearful that my future spouse will cause me harm.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 29.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> My future spouse and I can talk about our sexual fears, hopes and preferences.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 WIDTH="40"><div> 30.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> My future spouse will be uncomfortable in our relationship if I make more money than he or she does.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 31.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I worry that one or both of our families will interfere in the way we rear our children.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 WIDTH="40"><div> 32.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I am concerned that my future spouse's attitudes toward working mothers will cause problems between us.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 33.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I can only be happy if I am married.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 34.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I believe that our wedding ceremony should express God's place in our marriage.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 WIDTH="40"><div> 35.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> My future spouse agrees with me on the importance we will give to social status, money and possessions in our lives.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 36.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> We have discussed and agreed on how we will teach our values and beliefs to our children.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 WIDTH="40"><div> 37.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I am concerned that some one factor (children, community concerns, work, personal fulfillment) may dominate our life together.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 38.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I usually reach the goals I set for myself.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 39.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> My future spouse and I are open to having children.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 40.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> My future spouse is a good listener.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 41.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> My future spouse has too few interests and activities apart from me.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 42.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I would like us to change some of the ways we solve problems between us.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 43.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> My family had positive attitudes toward sex.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 44.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> We have decided how we will divide specific responsibilities in managing our financial affairs.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 45.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I feel that I am fully accepted by my future spouse's family.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 46.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I see myself as competent and confident.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 47.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I am not aware of any objections to our marriage.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 48.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> We agree that forgiving each other is essential to our marriage relationship.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 49.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I am at ease with the friends of my future spouse.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 50.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> We disagree with each other over some religious teachings.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 WIDTH="40"><div> 51.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I am concerned that my future spouse's background may create problems between us in how we divide household work.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 52.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> My future spouse and I seldom differ in our need to talk things out or to keep things to ourselves.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 53.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I am uncomfortable with the amount my future spouse drinks.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 54.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> We have discussed and agree on what faithfulness will mean in our relationship.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 55.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I am not at ease with the amount of time my future spouse spends with his/her friends.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 56.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> My future in-laws are uncomfortable with my choice and/or practice of religion.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 WIDTH="40"><div> 57.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I am concerned that what I observed about marriage as I was growing up will affect my role as husband/wife in a negative way.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 58.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> My future spouse usually respects the way I look at things.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 59.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> Drinking or using drugs causes my future spouse to act inappropriately.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 60.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I feel that I can express myself clearly to my future spouse.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 61.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> My future spouse and I agree that it is not healthy for us to avoid all disagreements.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 62.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I think I will feel uncomfortable being nude in front of my marriage partner.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 63.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> We are in agreement about how we will make financial decisions between us.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 64.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I am uncomfortable with my future spouse's attitude toward one or both of our families.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 65.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> My future spouse and I have agreed that we will not have children.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 66.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> There is no outside pressure on us to marry.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 67.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> Having a set of religious values to live by is very important in my life.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 68.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> We agree that parenting will not become more important than our couple relationship.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 WIDTH="40"><div> 69.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> Our families accept that our marriage relationship will come ahead of other responsibilities to them.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 WIDTH="40"><div> 70.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> My future spouse has some past experiences regarding the use of money that cause me concern.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 71.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I am concerned that either my future spouse or I may use sex as a way to control each other.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 72.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I am concerned that abusive treatment from my past will affect our relationship.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 73.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> Our marriage will put stress on my own practice of religion.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 74.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> My future spouse's moodiness causes problems between us.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 75.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> Pregnancy is part of our lives at this time.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 76.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> My future spouse's spirituality (beliefs and lifestyle) will strengthen our marriage.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 77.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> My future spouse makes most of the decisions about what we do together.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 78.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> We have agreed on whether we will have individual or joint checking accounts.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 79.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> My future spouse finds it difficult to let go of past hurts.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 80.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> We have identified the goals and ambitions that we share for our future.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 81.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I feel that my future spouse puts too much emphasis on appearance.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 82.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> We are in agreement about how we will combine both careers and child rearing.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 83.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> My future spouse does not often share his/her personal feelings with me.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 84.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> My future spouse always has to win.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 85.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I am uncomfortable about some sexual activities my marriage partner may ask of me.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 86.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I think my future spouse spends too much time watching television.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 87.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> My future spouse and I disagree on when to begin having children.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 88.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> We have discussed and agreed on ideas about our future home(s).</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 WIDTH="40"><div> 89.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I believe that persons who get married in a religious ceremony should be active participants in their religion.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 90.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> We agree on the religion in which we will raise our children.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 91.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> We agree on how we will support our household financially.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 92.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> My future spouse is comfortable with the way I handle organization and order.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 93.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I find it difficult to say "I am sorry" to my future spouse even when I am wrong.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 94.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I feel my future spouse shows affection adequately or appropriately.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 95.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> At times I have homosexual feelings, thoughts or behaviors that cause me concern.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 96.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> My future spouse sometimes puts me down.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 97.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I am concerned because one or both of us already has children.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 98.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> There will be little or no conflict in our marriage so long as we love each other.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 99.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I have difficulty sharing my faith and ideas on religion with my future spouse.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 100.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> We have discussed how each of us was disciplined as a child and how this may affect our parenting.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 101.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I expect that our marriage relationship will change as we change over the years.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 102.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I am comfortable asking my future spouse to pray with me.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 103.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I am satisfied with the way my future spouse expresses his/her feelings of disapproval and/or anger.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 104.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I fully agree with my future spouse's occupation or career plans.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 105.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> How my future spouse deals with change is a problem for me.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 106.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> My future spouse and I seldom disagree about appropriate behavior at social functions.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 107.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> My future spouse and I are in agreement about the times of day that are usually best and worst for each of us to communicate about important matters.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 108.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> We find ourselves disagreeing about the same issues over and over again.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 109.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> My future spouse and I are in agreement on how we will budget our money.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 110.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> There is no problem between us on the issue of receiving financial assistance from our families.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 111.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> My future spouse and I have discussed the number of children we want.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 112.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I am concerned that I am marrying too soon.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 113.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> Our close friends do not share our values on marriage.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 114.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> There are qualities about my future spouse that I do not respect.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 115.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> At times I am troubled about my relationship with God.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 116.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I am concerned that in-laws interfere in our marriage relationship.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 117.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I worry about my future spouse's interest in gambling.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 118.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> My future spouse knows himself/herself well and shares that with me.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 WIDTH="40"><div> 119.</div> </tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> We can usually meet each other halfway or find a new way to settle our differences.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 120.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I consider a personal faith in God an important ingredient in our marriage.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 121.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> My future spouse tends to be stubborn and/or inflexible.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 122.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I am hoping that marriage will solve some of the major problems in my life.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 123.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> We are in agreement about how to handle the assets and debts each of us brings to this marriage.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 124.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I am concerned that we will not have enough time as a couple to nourish our relationship.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 125.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> We agree on the need to support one another as we grow in faith.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 126.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I am concerned that my future spouse will become too involved in career/work.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 127.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> My future spouse's sense of humor sometimes causes problems between us.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 128.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I am concerned about my future spouse's relationship with people of the opposite sex.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 129.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I value "keeping peace" at any price.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 130.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I am concerned that a past sexual experience could affect our marital relationship in a negative way.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 131.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I am satisfied with the way we have planned for future financial security, (i.e., insurance, savings, investments, wills, etc.).</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 132.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I sometimes feel that this may not be the right person for me to marry.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 133.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> We have ways of getting emotional support from others for living the kind of married life we value.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 134.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I am upset by one or more of my future spouse's hobbies or recreational activities.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 135.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I am concerned because my future spouse does not go to worship as often as I do.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 136.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I am concerned with the way my future spouse considers the feelings of others when he/she makes decisions.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 137.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> My  future spouse is not jealous when I show attention to or look at persons of the opposite sex.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 138.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> My future spouse and I agree on the relationship between sex and intimacy.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 139.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I worry that our expenses will be greater than our income.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 140.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> We agree on the parenting roles each of us will have.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 141.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I am ready for the many changes in lifestyle that our marriage will involve.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 142.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I could not under any condition remain married to my future spouse if he/she were ever unfaithful to me.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 143.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I have some concern with the way my future spouse solves his/her personal problems.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 144.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> We agree on which traditions and customs each of us will bring from our families to this marriage.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 145.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> There are some issues which my future spouse will not discuss.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 146.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I am concerned that the family of my future spouse will expect either of us to spend too much time with them.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 147.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> My future spouse is often unhappy.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 148.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> My future spouse respects the desire I have for individual activities and time alone.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 149.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> My interests are different from those of my future spouse because we're from different locales (country vs. city, etc.).</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 150.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> At times I wonder if my  future spouse is honest with me.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 151.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> We have discussed the ways that our sexual relationship may be affected by our family planning method.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 152.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> We are in agreement on the use we will make of credit in our financial management.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 153.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I could accept the fact if my future spouse were unable to have children.      </div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 154.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> We agree on the amount of financial support each of us will contribute to our religion.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 155.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I have doubts that my commitment to this marriage is strong enough for a lifetime.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 156.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> At times I am concerned about the silent treatment I get from my  future spouse.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP COLSPAN=2 HEIGHT= 20 WIDTH="699"><div> <B>Special Section for Interfaith Marriage Couples</B></div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 157.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I believe that my future spouse's participation in his/her religion will causes problems between us.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 158.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> We have discussed how we will handle religious customs, traditions and training with our children.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 159.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> Our inability to share faith leaves me lonely at times.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 160.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I am concerned that differences in the way we understand the Bible will cause problems between us.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 161.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> We are in agreement on ways we will worship together.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 162.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I am concerned that I may have to give up my religious practice in order to avoid conflict between us over religion.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 163.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> We have discussed and agree on ways to make our differences in religion an enriching factor in our married life.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 164.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I am uncomfortable with the intention or desire my  future spouse has that our children will be raised in his/her religion.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 165.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I worry that a previous spouse or memories of a previous spouse will cause trouble for our new marriage.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 166.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I feel comfortable with the idea of my  future spouse disciplining my children.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 167.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> My  future spouse's previous marital sexual relationship causes me concern.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 168.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> We agree on what furnishings and possessions each of us will bring to our new home.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 169.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> My children will always come first with me even after I marry again.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 170.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> Because I have experience from my previous marriage, I will have fewer problems adjusting to this marriage.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 171.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> We have discussed the importance of starting our marriage in surroundings (house, neighborhood) new to both of us.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 172.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> We have discussed with our children some of the changes this marriage will bring to their lives.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 173.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I have shared with my  future spouse the feelings that I have about child support and/or alimony payments.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 174.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> My  future spouse and I are in agreement about the differences between our marriage commitment and the one we made when we first decided to live together.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 175.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> We have discussed and agree on the impact children have on our decision to marry at this time.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 176.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> Negative attitudes of one or both of our families about our living together have influenced our decision to marry.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 177.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> We are in agreement about the importance of a religious wedding at this time.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 178.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I am concerned that my  future spouse will find marriage too confining.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 179.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I am satisfied with the growth I see in our relationship over the time we have lived together.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 180.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I think our conflicts are often about who is in charge of our relationship.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 181.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> We have discussed and agree on changes we will make in the way we handle money after we are married.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 182.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I am concerned that it is primarily our sexual relationship that keeps us together.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 183.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> My  future spouse and I are in agreement about the way we expect our relationship to change after we marry.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 184.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> Differences in religion and values keep us from being as close as we could be.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 185.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> Neither of us is hesitant to marry at this time.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 186.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> At times, I feel that living together obliges me to sexual activity on demand.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 19 ><NOBR><div> 187.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP><NOBR><div> I am concerned that my  future spouse expects marriage to be free from times of discontent.</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 188.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> My future spouse and I have discussed and agree on what a healthy marriage relationship should be.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 38 ><NOBR><div> 189.</div> </NOBR></tD> <tD VALIGN=TOP WIDTH="658"><div> I understand why my church or religion does not approve of couples living together before marriage.</div> </tD> </tR> </TABLE></div> <bR> </td> </tr></table></body>